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Now What · Free toolkit · Topic 02

Is this abuse?
Naming what's happening.

A toolkit for people who sense something is wrong but don't yet have words for it. Tick what's true. You don't have to be sure. That's what this is for.

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What's inside
5 sections · 43 checkpoints
State-by-state info
  • Is this abuse? What actually counts10 checkpoints
  • The abuse that's hardest to name8 checkpoints
  • Is he monitoring your devices?8 checkpoints
  • Your escape bag and safety plan14 checkpoints
  • Protection orders: what they're called in your state3 checkpoints